Dating Safely While Trans
It all begins with an idea.
At Twyned, we’re committed to making dating an empowering experience for everyone. We also recognize that for trans people—who face disproportionately high rates of harassment, abuse, and violence—dating can come with very real risks, especially in environments that aren’t trans-affirming.
While transphobia is never the fault of those who are targeted, we’re here to support our trans users in making informed decisions that center their safety and wellbeing.
Here are the top three tips you should keep in mind to date safely while trans:
1. Have Boundaries
Remember: you never have to share more than you want, including your deadname, details about your body, assigned or assumed gender at birth, or any other personal information. What you share about yourself—and when—is up to you and no one else. If someone reacts negatively to your boundaries, it has everything to do with them, not you.
Your safety and comfort always come first. If you feel unsafe or uneasy, it’s always okay to leave a date early. Need support planning ahead? Check out our top five tips for safely exiting a bad date.
2. Trust Your Gut
Even if your date isn’t overtly transphobic, subtle signs of transphobia can still surface, such as dismissive comments about your gender. Even if there are no explicit red flags, always trust your instincts. If something feels off, pay attention.
3. Tell a Friend
Before going on a date, tell a trusted friend or loved one where you’re going, who you’re meeting, and when you expect to check in with them.
Transphobia has no place at Twyned. If you encounter transphobia, please report it, and we will investigate it promptly. All instances of transphobia will result in a lifetime ban from the app.
If you’re trans and reading this, know that you are welcome and valued here as a member of our community. You deserve to be safe, affirmed, and respected at all steps of your dating journey. We’re here to support you.